Freyr is like a fire

Two paragraphs from Chögyam Trungpa's Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism, but with Freyr as the subject:

...the first stage of meeting [Freyr] is like going to a supermarket. You are excited and you dream of all the different things that you are going to buy: the richness of [Freyr] and the colorful qualities of [their]¹ personality. The second stage of your relationship is like going to court, as though you were a criminal. You are not able to meet [Freyr]'s demands and you begin to feel self-conscious, because you know that [they] know as much as you know about yourself, which is extremely embarrassing. In the third stage when you go to see [Freyr], it is like seeing a cow happily grazing in a meadow. You just admire its peacefulness and the landscape, and then you pass on. Finally the fourth stage with [Freyr] is like passing a rock in the road. You do not even pay attention to it; you just pass by and walk away.

At the beginning a kind of courtship with [Freyr] is taking place, a love affair. How much are you able to win [Freyr] over to you? There is a tendency to want to be closer to [Freyr], because you really want to learn. You feel such admiration for [them]. But at the same time [they] are very frightening; [they] put you off. Either the situation does not coincide with your expectations or there is a self-conscious feeling that “I may not be able to open completely and thoroughly.” A love-hate relationship, a kind of surrendering and running away process develops. In other words, we begin to play a game, a game of wanting to open, wanting to be involved in a love affair with [Freyr], and then wanting to run away from [them]. If we get too close to [Freyr], then we begin to feel overpowered by [them]. As it says in the old Tibetan proverb: “[Freyr] is like a fire. If you get too close, you get burned; if you stay too far away, you don’t get enough heat.” This kind of courtship takes place on the part of the student. You tend to get too close to [Freyr], but once you do, you get burned. Then you want to run away altogether.